Saying No in More Ways Than One

We have all experienced that moment in life, when we have to say "no" to someone. It may be a friend, a relative, or a complete stranger that we must say this to. It doesn't matter exactly who the person is, what really matters is how we go about doing it. There are several different ways in which we can say "no"; some of them tend to be nicer and maybe not as effective as others. Here are a couple scenarios in which case you say "no" in either an effective or not so effective way. I will let you be the judge of that.


The Stern No

Say there's a co worker at your office space in Tucson that has been bugging you for the past month to go out on a date with them. You are not interested what-so-ever and have avoided giving them a straight answer up until this current point in which you finally have had enough. The two of you are in the break room together when once again, the question comes up of, "hey, what are you doing this weekend; care to catch some dinner together?" You cringe as it was asked in that creepy sort of sleazy way. You can feel your face curling with both anger and astonishment that they haven't taken the hint, until finally you have worked up the courage to spat out, "no."


No Thank You

All-in-all this one is a little bit nicer than the latter; but let's be realistic with ourselves, it's still a "no" here people. So you go over to a friend's house for dinner, because every other Friday it's "dinner night" at their place. You were reluctant on going in the first place when you found out they were currently on the HCG diet and can only consume up to 500 calories a day. What in the world are they going to make for dinner? As you show up the whole place reeks of broccoli and cauliflower. Your friend calls you to the dinner table where in front of you there is a bottle of wine and a dish of vegetables. Keep in mind you haven't eaten all day because you have been running errands non stop. Your friend asks you, "would you like some veggies?" just as they are passing you the dish; you reply with, "no thank you." You can pass me the bottle of wine though.


I'm Not Sure

You know those times when someone asks if you like the new outfit they are wearing or if you want to attend a party; and you are clearly thinking how the outfit is dreadful or how you definitely aren't going to the party. Well, I sure do and I can honestly say this one can only get you out of something for so long. In other words, you should probably just say no if you really mean it, instead of beating around the bush of indecisiveness of how to politely say it. Say your

pool cleaner is having a big bash for their friend and they invite you to come. Your initial reaction is how nice it is to have them think of you, but at the same time you know you are not going to go. You feel bad about saying no so instead you reply with, "I'm not sure, let me get back to you." In this instance, you should probably just save yourself time and be honest with that person.

These are just a couple of the many methods that are used. Heck, some of us are more creative than others and have mastered the way of effectively saying "no." Me, I'm still working on it, but can honestly say I have come a long ways