Teens' Attitudes

TEENAGERS' ATTITUDES

WHAT IS ACTUALLY HAPPENING?

Your teen is going through a range of emotional upheavals and the only way they know how to deal with it is in by having attitudes. I am not talking their usual behaviors, but rather those attitude outburst, you have no idea it came from and why it was provoked, and ranging from crying, screaming, arguing, even laughter, foolish acts, drama “queen/king” periods, etc...

Why do they have these moments? Simple – their HORMONS are going crazy. Teens bodies and minds are growing fast, and the hormones are just trying to catch up to it all. It does get affected by the amount of sleep, what they eat and dring, how healthy or ill they are at the moment, environment and social stress, exhaustion and lets not forget their genetic background.


WHAT CAN YOU DO?

If you get yourself to a situation when suddently your child went from absolutely normal, lovely being to alien like person you do not recognize, and probably would not want to know if it was not your child.

I found out few things that work for my teen:

1.LISTEN TO THEM
I know, I know ... same old recomendation, as from anyone else. I do not mean just that ... what I am trying to say is ... make your teen talk and do not try ot argue or talk yourself too much. Just try it ... Ask them what is happening and listen, probe them with few more relevant questions to get details – you might be surprised, you might even find out something you did not realize before.
2.TREAT THEM AS ADULTS
I know, it again sounds like something everyone else says. However, from personal experience, I know for sure that when I treat my teen on same level as if he was my friend, instead of a child, he responses easier and more realistically. On other hand, when my husband tries to order our son around, not only will he get a huge fight (arguments and screaming) on hand, but also very defient teen, who does not want to do anything with him for some time.
3.DO SOMETHING UNEXPECTED
If the situation is already going on for way too long or nothing what you are saying seems to be working, try my last method I like to use. For example: My son woke up extremely grouchy one morning (school day) and was just making everyone around him upset and annoyed, so I made him to come with me to car and my work (yes, I was just contradicting myself, but it worked, so I am not complaining). It shocked him enough (as this is not my usual reaction) to stop him from continuing to behave that grouchy way and taking it on other people. In car we were able to talk a little (just us two ... and I did pointed out his wrong way of dealing with that day) and eventually he calmed down by the time it was time for school. Please just be aware that whatever you decide to try to do at the moment of a problem, do not use any corporal punishment, as that will not work anymore (your teen my just decide to run away and ...).

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HONEST PARENTING


WHICH ROAD DO I HAVE TO TAKE TO REAR A GOOD CHILD?
Proper parenting skills are a major requirement in this lifelong child rearing preparation process and you have to be sure that you are equipped with good parenting skills. The basic parenting equipment that we have is the way in which our very own parents brought us up.


THE PROCESS OF BEING A NEW PARENT.
If you want to become the parent that you desired to be, you should investigate further.


HERE ARE THE PROCESSES THAT YOU SHOULD KNOW TO BECOME SKILLED IN PARENTING.
Know your own child - we are all different by nature, and we all have a unique character aspect that identifies us to be ourselves. It is a proven fact that most children copy their parents' actions and even their mannerisms, and desires to follow their footsteps, but there's also those who doesn't want to become like their parents and most of the time defies them. The children that rebels against what you (as the parent) have been used to are the ones you'll need implement good parenting skills with, they will definitely upset you and also leave you feeling discouraged at times.


PARENTING IS A NEVER-ENDING JOB.
To be a parent, this requires you to walk in a fine thin line. For sure, we all want our children to have better and happier lives than ours were. Nobody can say that parenting is such an easy task. A job that is never-ending, that what's parenting is all about. Any money that this world can offer cannot buy a child's laughter, kisses and meaningful hugs.


TEACH YOUR KIDS SELF-RELIANCE
If you suddenly noticed that you constantly give in to your child's whims, take a pause and ask yourself what made you do such a thing. Do not be surprised if you discover that you're really seeking to fulfill what you lacked in your childhood. By giving acceptance, abundant love and affection to your child, they tend to be kinder, charitable and best of all responsible as opposed to those whose parents acceded to their every whims and materialistic demands. Avoiding to spoil your child is your choice, but this is the most important time for you to show them and make then understand compassion, to be with them as they moved on towards adulthood.


GET MORE COMPLIANCE FROM YOUR CHILD.
Start to establish house rules - For instance, if your house rule is that bedtime should be at 8 pm, simply state the rule. By showing your feelings towards your child - Often times when you start to show compassion towards your child and reflecting back what or how they are feeling is helpful for gaining cooperation from your child. Basically, a defiant child will readily pull you in a power struggle which will actually wear you down.


COMMON CHILD AND PARENT PROBLEMS.
There is no use in going back down your memory lane (your own school days) if you want to try to help your child with their homework, you'll just probably find yourself lost and unable to understand the child's homework, since all of the teaching methods have changed since your were last in school. Though, children do not realize that not all parents can actually afford to pay high prices for their children clothes and shoes, I know that your own child won't take that into consideration, he/she wants to be just like the others, and often say that if others have it, why can't they have it too. Plus, by being a active parent in your child's school system you will learn about their behavior while at school. In lieu of the age that we now live in, a lot of the parents have to keep a strict eye on their children.


MAKE MEMORIES WITH QUALITY FAMILY TIME.



THE FOLLOWING TIPS ENSURE THAT YOUR FAMILY TIME WILL BE STRESS FREE AND WILL ENSURE THAT YOU WILL MAKE YOUR FAMILY MEMORIES LAST FOR A LIFETIME:
Design your dinner table to be a little more festive, avoid the usual setting of a bouquet of flowers.
Parents have to first establish some positive uplifting points or topics for dinner table conversations. Avoid criticisms, arguing or squabbling during family dinners.


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