How to Blend Yourself in New Family Environment after You Discovered Having Gay Child

Just think how you would react to the new family environment if your son or daughter brought in their girlfriend or boyfriend. You would be excited to meet them and wish well for your children. If they are invited for dinner or lunch, you would take care to be perfect and not ask the wrong questions that might offend them. You must be comfortable thinking about the scenario as you have it all ingrained in you. You know how to behave as you think a heterosexual relationship is the be all and end all of all romantic relationships.

When your daughter brings home her boyfriend to get him introduced to her parents, she knows that you as a parent will have her interest in mind. While talking with her boyfriend you will take care to say the right things, ask the right questions, being discreet if required, and get along with the lunch or dinner. It would be the same when your son brings home his girlfriend. In both the scenarios you would be wishing all of them well. What would go around in your mind? Obviously, the well being of your son and daughter and the new love of their lives will be on your mind.

Now, if you have a gay son, he would also bring home his partner for lunch or dinner to get him introduced to his parents. Should you be feeling differently? If you do, ask yourself if your gay son isn't as much a son as his other siblings who are heterosexual. As a gay son, he isn't responsible for his sexual orientation. It was as much a biological reason as it was for your other children who are heterosexual. Neither was it your fault as a parent.

Unlike heterosexual people, your gay son is romantically attracted to members of his own sex. It is not a perversion or a crime, but just a sexual orientation as anything else. And your gay son's sexual orientation is just a miniscule fraction of his overall personality. It does not define his overall personality like it does not for your other heterosexual son. Your gay son is entitled to his life and sexuality like anybody else and that does not in any way make him a lesser human being.

He is as great a human being as anybody else and he requires your love and understanding being under stress to justify himself all his life. If you cannot adjust and think his relationship is certainly not right, you are suffering form serious misgivings and misinformation. Try to treat your gay child as your own flesh and blood because that's what he is. Blend with the new environment and offer your gay child unconditional love and affection.

Author Resource:

Emily Jäger is 41 years old, loving wife and mother of a 19 year old gay son. First she suffered a lot when heard that her child is gay, but Emily got over it and now she wants to teach/help parents how to cope with the fact that your child is gay. Click here to read more how to deal with your gay son.