Dressing: Up or down?

Many people always ask the question about what is it that men see in sexy clothing. Does it matter if we dress up in sexy underwear or dress down to obliterate all signs of a sexual being? The answer is probably two fold. Yes, most men will love to see a woman dressed up in sexy lingerie, but there are some who desire more when they see a woman ‘dressed down' in very proper clothing.

Some men will love the overtly sexual look of stockings and suspenders, thongs, push up bras and the like but some will go crazy for the prim, self controlled look of a woman dressed in so called ‘decent' clothing so the true answer is ‘it depends on the man'.

Men are somewhat different to women when it comes to sex and the art of arousal. Men tend to be very visual creatures who love to be teased and titillated. This is why strip joints and the like are so popular. Women, on the other hand, tend to go to see men strip for completely different reasons as witnessed by the screams of laughter when the man begins to disrobe. They just don't connect the undressing of a complete stranger with a sexual act whereas men tend to have great imaginations when it comes to strippers.

With the act of taking off clothes men can become instantly sexually excited but a woman will take some time to warm up to the situation. This is not just a personal opinion. Ask any woman if she would like to see a man strip and be prepared for a myriad of answers. Ask a man if he would like to see a beautiful woman strip and he will likely say yes immediately. Of course, this is a general rule and there are exceptions!

But if we get away from the serious side of dressing up or dressing down, many women have decided to take the initiative and have started buying lingerie that they feel good in. Of course, men are reaping the rewards because they also like to see wives and girlfriends in beautifully crafted underwear.

Perhaps it is the effect of the women's liberation front which started the whole thing. Women used to wear prim and proper clothes and act in a way dictated by their men folk, but here in the 21st century women have really come into their own. You would more likely find a woman buying sexy, wispy things for her own pleasure these days than buying them to please her man. It doesn't hurt, of course, that she likes feeling sexy under that power suit that she is forced to wear to the office. It is a kind of hidden secret that only she, and the man in her life, will know about.

To go one step further, women are known to love dressing up in sexy outfits to wear when they know that their significant other is coming home. This can be a kind of visual signal that she is receptive to advances when he gets home. Men, too, love the thought of the woman taking the initiative and say that it takes the pressure off them to perform all the time. Indeed, many men say that the burden of always having to be the instigator of sexual relations sometimes takes the joy out of just being spontaneous.

If a couple can be completely honest with each other about where, when and how they want to engage in the sexual act, they can usually balance their appetites so that they become synchronized in their desires. Troubles come when one wants sex more than the other so anything that can usurp this problem is very good.

Many women love the idea of men bringing home sexy little numbers like short nightdresses, Basques and beautiful negligee sets because it makes them feel desirable. Women, on the other hand, may want to fulfill the man's fantasies by dressing as a prim, staid librarian, for example, so that he can tempt her into the sexual act by slowly undressing ‘Miss' before they engage in the act itself. Of course, there are many outfits that seem to excite men like the ‘naughty nurse' or ‘naughty schoolgirl' types that are available amongst many others. There is nothing wrong with this and as long as both partners are enjoying it then anything goes.

Amongst other outfits that are available are leather or plastic dresses. Men seem to be turned on by leather, animal prints or shiny plastic - the visual thing again - but many women are too. It gives them a sense of empowerment and confidence is so sexy on a man or on a woman!

For weddings or anniversaries, many will love to dress in something a little ‘dangerous' and these pieces come in all and any style and color. Rhinestone bras, lacey teddies, boy shorts, lace, satin and see through. It is there. Whatever the mind can imagine, someone somewhere has designed it! Cute cheerleader outfits complete with pompoms, sheer negligees in all colors, full length cocktail dresses with side splits to the waist, indeed whatever is meant to look sexy then it can be found. Some of the fun comes from perusing the catalogues together and choosing what should be purchased!

The good thing these days is that all these outfits, and many more, are available over the internet. No more embarrassing trips to the high street to look for something a little ‘special' for the anticipated night of pleasure. Suppliers have woken up to the fact that many more sales will be made if the buyer is not embarrassed. They have also realized that not all people are made in the same standard sizes too so even the larger people are catered for.

Goods are delivered under plain packages and some go as far as having a non-descript name of the shop so credit card receipts do not reveal this penchant for lingerie buying to the outside world.