How To Stop a Divorce
By: Bdub | Posted: 27th November 2009
If you're wanting to stop a divorce, you have to encourage the person who
wants to divorce you to give it another try. This isn't always 100% doable,
but it's definitely essential if you plan on stopping a split. A divorce can
be halted at virtually any stage before it's filed or right before it needs
the final paperwork. The sooner you can halt a divorce, the more prevelent
it will be that the divorce won?t be restarted, at least anytime soon.
So to impede a divorce, you must persuade your partner to give the
relationship another go. If you have been begging and pleading him/her to
give you one mor try, stop now. This might feel counterproductive, as if now
they'll have less resistance and it will make it easier for them to divorce
you. However, recognize your begging probably wasn't doing a damn thing but
convincing them that a divorce is a good idea anyway. Nobody wants to be
around someone who is behaving that way. Neediness is not the answer no
matter how much you feel it on the inside.
So what will make a difference; changing the way you act. If you can start
acting more mature and behaving in a way where you are fun and positive to be
around, it will often surprise the other person and help stop divorce. And
after you've shown you're pleasant to be around, explain that you really don'
t want the divorce and you want another chance in a calm way. Just make it
clear that you're hurt, heartbroken, and really want another chance. You
could be surprised by how the other person reacts when you change your
approach.
Another way to show maturaty and that you've changed is by suggesting marital
or couples counseling to halt the divorce. Counseling has proven to be
effective for million of couples and your relationship will more than likely
benefit from it. Besides the progress your relationship will make in the
couseling sessions, it will also buy you time before they file for or attempt
to finalize a divorce to convince them to give you and the relationship
another chance.
During therapy you'll have the opportunity to demonstrate to the person why
they fell in love with you. This is very important. You can prompt them to
recall why you're in a relationship in the first place. And if you can
demonstrate an honorable effort in wanting to deal with the difficulties that
arise during the counseling (many probably will) that might be enough to
convince the other person not only to stop divorce temporarily, but
indeffinetely.
When you succeed and halt a divorce, you have to recognize that the person
was about to divorce you and it would be easy enough for them to change his
or her mind and hold off on filing for divorce. Having already thought about
divorce and maybe even having gone far enough as to file for divorce at one
time makes the decision to file again easier. Just be aware of the condition
of the relationship, and continue counseling as long as neccesary.
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